I've found that the only real distinction between friend and boyfriend is the attraction factor.A boyfriend is actually a friend that you'd like to get kinky with as soon as possible. Yeah, he remembers all of that and it scarred his brain and now he will not so much as come close to licking your face ever or being a total dick out of nowhere, don't you worry. You know all about his issues with his ex, so you're not wondering what he likes and doesn't like. You already trust him, which makes you, like, 80 percent less nail-bitingly nervous about everything. The guy who slept with you and then stopped calling you for no reason?With your guy though, you're already on the same page with that stuff and everything pretty much always lands (unless you make a series of bad puns that you knew were bad, but you just had to say them. At this point, you've had so many months of near hand-holds and "damn it, I want to kiss you but I won't" moments that the build-up is so much more~*intense*~ than it would've been if you'd waited three freaking dates to kiss. You can tell when he's stressed versus mad versus has a personality disorder.At this point, it's easy as pie to tell when he's being weird because he's working too much or because he's kind of pissed off at you because of something you said or if he needs help because he's probably an alcoholic who won't admit it.However…If you're in the category of male/female friendship in which something more could definitely be on the horizon, know that taking that leap of faith could be the best decision you'll ever make.It might feel scary, and you might fear that it'll ruin the connection you already have, but the best – and easiest – relationships truly grow from friendships.
During my semester abroad in college, I went on a trip to Rome with my best guy friend, and I can guarantee you neither of us felt a spark or tried to make “love” happen, even when we were admiring the Colosseum together or eating spaghetti and drinking wine under the dim lights of romantic outdoor restaurants. In fact, the chemistry mimics the high of addiction. Your brain chemistry is actually different when you fall in love than all the rest of your life.You can—and should—delight in the heart-pounding giddiness of love. But if you want the whole thing to last, then you need friendship, too. Think of your own good friends, the ones who have your back, the ones who are there for you, no matter what.The ones you can tell anything to and the ones you would do anything for. Remembering times your friend was there for you brings tears to your eyes. A key here is the word “mutual.” Friendship has to be a two-way street.